There are many different definitions and interpretations about values, what values are and how to go about them. One way of understanding values is thinking about what is important in our lives and what gives us direction. Values help us make choices and deal with difficult situations. Values can guide our behavior and the life style we choose.
While thinking about and openly talking about your personal and family values, we learn a lot about what matters by observing daily attitudes. You may have seen the video widely promoted on social media called “Children see, children do” (https://youtu.be/7d4gmdl3zNQ). When we speak and act in coherent ways, we can promote a positive message to the ones around us.
Your beliefs and the importance you give to areas of your life such as family, friends, work, learning and education, the environment, fitness and health, fun, spirituality and religion, community and social work, material goods and physical appearance, moral values and manners, just to name a few examples, can add to the common values of your family. Being aware of these values and how they influence your life can help you reflect on the values you would like to pass along to your children.
What matters the most in your family? What actions do you take to promote and live by these values? Are there any values you wish you were investing more on? What can you do today about it?
Here is a suggestion of how to explore some of these questions about your personal values: http://media.psychology.tools/worksheets/english_us/values_en-us.pdf. There are many other tools available online, if you are interested in the topic.
Below you can also find some parenting articles about values. Hope the reflection is worth it!
15 ways to raise a child with great values
Values matter: using your values to raise caring, responsible, resilient children